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The Master/sub relationship

What should be the proper relationship between a Master and his sub? This is a question that has many answers, so I shall only focus on my own personal views. This is not intended as a knock against other masters who may differ in opinion, but rather as a guide for any subs or future subs of mine, so that they may know exactly what they are getting into when they accept me as Master. This “treatise” as it were, will be divided into sections to make it easier to follow along.

I. Must a Dom be Violent?
There are many people who think a Dom must be violent and uncompromising. This is simply not the case. A Dom (or dominant male) is a man who knows what he wants and gets it. If a Master wishes to be ridden or have his sub have her way with him, he is still in complete control as everything is done via his permission. Violence need not be a part of the transaction if the Master feels satisfied.

II. Spirited Disobedience vs. Disloyalty

A wise Master knows that the sub he accepts is a human being. As such, he should realize he does not have complete dominion over her thoughts – and in fact should strive in helping her reach her full potential as an individual. There will be times that a sub disobeys a direct order. Does this mean the sub must be punished? No. Discretion must be used. A Master must ask himself what kind of disobedience it was. First, perhaps disobedience arose from a mistake on the part of the Master. Humility is not a sign of weakness, but rather a sign of wisdom. A Master is human and like all humans, susceptible to mistakes. If a sub disobeys because the order was wrong, then (providing the sub shows that the order was wrong) the Master should be willing to admit fault. Sometimes, a sub is disobedient because she is care-free. Lapses of judgment should be addressed, but fairly. The worst form of disobedience is disloyalty. What is disloyalty? Disloyalty is simple – taking any side attacking her Master or finding a Master elsewhere. The punishment for disloyalty is simple – shutting out. If during the period of time in which the sub is shut out, the sub attempts to make amends, then she should be given a second chance. If the sub does not even try to contact the Master (or worse- continues her transgressions), the Master must let her go.

III. Punishment

A Master must respect his sub’s individuality. That notwithstanding, the sub has the duty to be obedient to her Master. Unless a Master’s order will cause her emotional or physical harm (beyond her limits), she must obey. If she does not, it is the Master’s duty to mete out fitting punishment. Punishment must fit the crime and must not be done for the Master’s gratification, but rather to teach a lesson. For example, if Master’s sub is a college student and refused to do her homework, the Master should punish accordingly, for example – assigning double the work on pain of sexual deprivation. If a Master cannot control his own sexual urges, then he is not master over himself and surely cannot be master over others. If a sub should cum before being given permission to do so, the fitting punishment would be for the sub to be teased sexually until it is unbearable. These are just two examples.

IV. Who chooses whom?

It is the sub who chooses her Master. It cannot be the other way around. To be a sub is to willingly submit oneself to the will of another and such a choice must be made freely. It is only possible that the choice is freely made if the sub is the one choosing the Master.

V. What is the Master’s Duty?

A Master is not a person out for his own gratification, but rather someone who is wise and wishes to help others. Therefore, the duty of a Master must be to help his subs grow. He must provide assistance and advice whenever he is able. The sub is not there simply as his personal sex toy, but rather as a human being in need of guidance. The Master’s duty is therefore to strengthen his subs and make them the best they can be – to rectify their faults and nurture their strengths.

VI. What to expect as a sub of SkorpionAnton

If you wish to become my sub and we finalize the arrangement, you can expect several things. First, expect to be treated with respect and for respect to be demanded of you. There is no compromise in this. I will do my best to help you realize your full potential – sexually and otherwise. Expect that you will not just become a sexual partner for me, but also a friend and confidant. Likewise, I will be one to whom you may confide in. Your individuality will be respected and your opinions and ideas listened to eagerly. Though I have the final say in anything, you are welcome and In fact encouraged to speak your mind and make suggestions. Never be afraid to correct me if I go astray – simply make the correction in private. I will always admit when I am wrong. Regarding sex, expect your fantasies to be fulfilled tenfold. Obedient subs will find that I am eager to please them sexually as much as myself.

In closing, I would simply like to say that in a Master/sub relationship, we must show each other mutual respect. It isn’t about what others expect a “master” or a “sub” to be, but rather what we agree upon personally. The sub chooses the Master, but after having done so, must act accordingly. The Master must guide his sub, but never trample her free will and individuality.