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The DIfference between a Dom and a Prick

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Also by the same author as my last post, this is worth your time to read.
The difference between a Dom and a Prick:

A Dom understands that submission is a gift.
A Prick thinks that submission is a weakness.

A Dom understands that Dominance is a gift.
A Prick thinks that Dominance is a right.

A Dom takes pride in his girl, because he knows she is of value.
A Prick takes pride in owning a girl, because he knows he deserves it.

A Dom tells his girl how proud he is of her when she does well, because he knows how hard she has worked.
A Prick congratulates himself for his training techniques, when his girl does well.

A Dom sets clear, achievable, consistent expectations.
A Prick sets arbitrary rules and changes them when he sees fit.

A Dom gives reasonable punishments, intended to improve his girl, or her behavior, or their relationship.
A Prick gives punishment because he enjoys it.

A Dom rewards his girl for pushing herself past her previous limits.
A Prick tells his girl "That's not good enough, let's move on to the next level."

A Dom understands that the balance of D/s is ongoing work, needing constant tending from both sides.
A Prick thinks that the work is done once the girl first accepts the collar.

A Dom understands that a submissive might be smart, capable, strong, but chooses to give her power, her decisions and worries to her Sir because it allows her to be free.
A Prick thinks that a submissive must be stupid and weak and unable to make decisions or think for herself, and he devalues her intelligence and self-will.

A Dom understands that his girl's time, possessions, faithfulness and love are hers to give and should be asked for.
A Prick assumes that anything his girl has belongs to him, simply because she is his girl, even though it has not been negotiated.

A Dom is able to say "I'm sorry."
A Prick never thinks that there is anything he needs to be sorry for.

A Dom earns respect from those around him because he shows respect to others when it is due.
A Prick demands respect from those around him by denying it to anybody else.

A Dom earns love by giving it.
A Prick demands love by withholding it.

Adding this one on 10/15, after putting it into the comments, and being told by more than one person, by PM fairly immediately, how important it actually is:

A Dom is somebody who makes a Prick mistake, grows from it, and does better next time.
A Prick is somebody who thinks that he can never make a mistake, and never needs to grow.

(This is written with Dom / Prick as "he" and sub as "girl" because, well, that's just how I did it. So there.)

(Also, to be fair, with the whole "It takes two to tango" thing, I've started working on "The difference between a sub and a manipulative bitch." Or something. That one is going to take me a while...because, well, it just is.)