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The difference between a Sub and an Empty Shell

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I've seen and known plenty of people that could have benefited from reading this. I did not write it myself, but a woman aliased as GlassHummingbird did.

The difference between a Sub and an Empty Shell:
(This is written with "sub" as "she" and "Sir / Dom" as he, because that's just who the author was when She wrote it, and originally wrote this for herself.)

A sub has her own identity, and submits her will, love, and body to her Sir.
An empty shell has no identity, and submits herself to her Sir, expecting him to tell her who she is supposed to become.

A sub accepts the desires of her Sir, is able to have joy in her ability to follow his will, and expresses her own desires easily.
An empty shell has no desires of her own, because she has never learned how to have her own joy, if it is not given to her by others.

A sub has pride in herself and her accomplishments, because she knows she is a good, strong, worthy person.
An empty shell is only proud of herself when she is told she is allowed to be. And maybe not even then.

A sub tries to improve herself for the pleasure of her Sir, for her own benefit and life, and for the sake of the relationship.
An empty shell tries to improve herself because she desperately needs to become exactly what her Sir needs her to be.

A sub takes pride and feels joy in serving her Sir, because that is what he craves and needs, and doing well and making him happy fills her heart with love and peace.
An empty shell takes pride and feels joy in serving her Sir, because that is what he craves and needs, and doing well and making him happy soothes that part of her that constantly feels worthless.

A sub gives over the decisions to her Sir, because it gives her freedom from worry.
An empty shell gives over the decisions to her Sir, because she doesn't know what she is supposed to want.

A sub has boundaries, and is able to call Red when those boundaries are crossed.
An empty shell cannot call Red, because to do so will risk losing the person who fills her emptiness.

A sub knows that her submission is a gift, and will choose carefully to whom she gives it.
An empty shell gives her submission to the very next person - anybody who holds the right posture, be he Dom or Prick, because she cannot be alone.

A sub is able to forgive her Sir for mistakes.
An empty shell is sure that her Sir has never made a mistake - because everything that has gone wrong has been her fault.

A sub knows that she "deserves better than a Prick."
An empty shell doesn't even know she's with a Prick, because she has asked him to create her identity, and he has created her as someone who loves and venerates him.

A sub will walk away from a one-sided relationship, where she isn't getting any reward, love, or joy. She will walk away from an abusive relationship before she has even gotten within ten feet of it.
An empty shell will stay in the relationship, begging and hoping for a drop of love, because she remembers that one moment, months ago, when that drop was given - and the hope that there might be another next week, is better than the certainty that there will be none if she walks away. The thought of not being taken care of, the thought of having to make her own decisions is more terrifying than the thought of being abused.

A sub is a person whose spirit, mind, and heart are called to be of service to another person.
An empty shell is a person who needs to be needed, and who thinks that by trying to fill a role to which she is not actually called - submission - that need to be needed will be resolved