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Making your Profile 20% Cooler



20% Cooler is a blog series where we look at various ways to improve your personal appearance and experience in chat rooms. This time we're going to look at how to construct a good Profile

Your profile is a place to put all of the important information you want to share with people, your fetishes, pictures of yourself, your relationship status, your roleplay ideas, there are countless amounts of things you may want to put on your profile, but so many of them are just borderline blank. If you read my post "Making your name 20% Cooler" then you would have noticed I mentioned putting X information on your profile instead of in your name several times over.

So Rainbow, where should I start with all this Profile stuff?

Let's start with the first thing people see, your profile picture. Your profile picture instantly sets the tone for your profile page and there are countless amounts of people who's pictures alone, make me instantly decline friend requests without even a second thought. Lets go over a quick few rules of thumb to help you out in this aspect.

#1 Pictures of your dangly bits.


No one wants to see your dick, they all look pretty much exactly the same (Assuming it isn't plagued and infectious) if you have seen one, you've seen them all pretty much. You can put these sort of pictures on your profile, just not as your actual profile picture. Your picture is another thing to represent yourself with, do you really want to be representing yourself as one of the following: A dick, a tit, an ass, a vagina.
(The answer should be, "No."

I can talk quite a lot about this but really, it isn't something to sell yourself with. If people want to see your reproductive organs then they will ask. (It's also creepy when you view your own profile and notice that the last people to view your profile just left a row of penises on your 'Recently Viewed By' list.)

#2 Fake Pictures

It's incredibly easy to tell if pictures are faked, I wont go into detail about how to catch them out but it is incredibly easy, you can even find out what a person searched for to get a stolen image as well. The second you upload a picture of someone else and claim it to be yourself, you instantly lose any and all credibility, and if the user in question is female, it just makes it look like a man pretending to be a girl.

#3 Roleplay Character Images


This is something I recommend doing actually (Makes a change from me saying "You are doing it wrong", if you RP a character or characters, upload pictures of them! If really helps, especially in an RP scenario. It means you don't have to rely on your descriptions conveying everything about your characters appearance and it prevents having to type up a 500 word essay every time someone asks what you look like.

So Rainbow, my picture is now that of a cute kitty, what now?

Now that you've done that let's look at the actual 'bulk' of the profile. (And I feel sorry for that cat having to look at so many penises on the profiles)

Your Wall

This is the next thing users will see if they view your profile, your wall is basically a feed of your activity and a place for users to send you messages, much like facebook. As a result of this, people can see images you've uploaded recently, forum posts you have made and that sort of thing. My advice here is relatively minimal, just keep in mind that things you do on other parts of the website can quickly be browsed using your wall, so try and keep yourself appearing composed when you post on blogs and forums.

For example, do you really want to be the second thing people see on your profile, you calling someone a thousand different expletives? Probably not.

The information section

This is the place for you to put all of the things you are looking to use this site for. First we have the 'Basic Info' Section. Here, as it says in the name, your very basic information resides. You shouldn't have to worry about filling this in though as it should have been mostly completed when you created your profile.

This information is normally just something to just skim over but it contains a few important pieces of information, your Age, Sex and Location (ASL as commonly used.) and your sexual orientation. I would highly recommend before messaging someone in the chat and asking "Asl" that you check their profile. I'll get into a lot more detail about this next week. This also helps to avoid straight men trying to hit on Lesbians and things like that.

So all I can say for on the basic info is, read it. Don't ask a person for that information unless it isn't here in the first place. And if you haven't already, make sure it's all filled in and correct. If you ask questions that are answered on the person in questions profile, you are making yourself look lazy and disinterested and I encourage people to instead of replying to those people, point out to the person that the information requested IS on your profile.(Despite it being in the title of the site, a lot of people seem to ignore the profiles entirely.)

'About Me'


This is the section of your Info page that you have free reign over, you can put whatever you want here. I haven't browsed too many profiles but here is a shortlist of things that might be worth putting down here if you are struggling for information.

#1 About yourself

Seems simple enough, feel the need to tell people what your day job is? Do it here. This is the perfect place to put information about WHY you use this site, for example are you here strictly for webcam chat? Might want to put it here. Are you here for just regular, non sexual chat? Might really want to put it here.

#2 Hobbies

Have anything you really enjoy having discussions about, stick a few of them here. It helps to make a good conversation starter too.

#3 Turn offs

Something you really don't enjoy? Might want to note it down here to avoid any awkwardness in the middle of a discussion

#4 Fetishes

Saves you having to ask everyone or saves everyone asking you (Assuming they have read your profile prior)

Having 3 + 4 in that order helps to avoid people simply reading your fetishes and ignoring the list of turn offs.

#5 RP character details
You can be roleplaying as some fantastic creature but I can guarantee you would rather avoid typing out a massive description every time you talk to someone new. This can save you a lot of time and I'll get into more about this shortly.

#6 RP scenario details
Have a favorite scenario that you just love to act out? Put it here! Combine that with a list of fetishes and you can learn a lot about what a person enjoys.

Just keep in mind that all this information is public so refrain from putting private information here, do not put your real life contact details here under any circumstances. (Seriously, don't do it.)

'Pages'

This is an alternative to just writing a fetish list, users can create 'Pages' and they can 'Like' them, the name of the page then gets added to your profile information here. For example, into Furries? Go over to the Furries page, and hit the Like button, that now shows up on your profile. The pages are also a good way to meet other people since you can create posts for other members of the group to read and comment upon so you can get some really large discussions going on with the pages that wouldn't normally happen otherwise. Just remember other people can see your posts so keep that in mind when writing things.

Blogs, friends and photos.

Blogs


Relatively short section on these, people can view a list of blogs you have posted here rather than scrolling down your Wall to find them. Convenient, huh?

A minor nit pick here is that the Blogs section tends to be crowded by things that...really don't constitute as blogs in my opinion. Blogs should be for relatively long detailed posts rather than 1 or two paragraphs, you can post your small paragraphs about X on your Profile or in the Confessions section if it is appropriately themed. On top of this there is also the forums which can be used for more discussion based topics or if you are looking for roleplay partners and things. (There is literally a section on the forums for things like this.)

Friends

I have a bit more to say about Friends. This is just a minor personal appearance thing really, you can be friends with whomever you want but other people can see your friends list and I would advise only accepting friend requests from actual friends or people whom you have spoken to before. Accepting random friend requests completely invalidates the point of the friend system in the first place. To prove my point, what is the point in a friends list if you are going to accept every single invite sent to you without question?

Photos

But Rainbow, you already talked about this!

This isn't your profile picture, you can also just upload regular pictures to the site too.

If you are going to post pictures of your reproductive organs, put them here rather than on the Profile Picture, that way you aren't effectively shoving your wang in the faces of people who don't want to see it. I'd also, as said earlier, recommend putting pictures of characters you roleplay as, your fursona and that sort of thing here. You can also comment on each picture individually so if you wish to put information down about specific characters you play as (For example, personality and interests of that character), I would recommend doing that here whilst leaving a note in your 'About Me' Section to help people in finding this information.)

Privacy


Last but not least it's time to have a quick look at the privacy settings, here you can set who can post on your wall, who can view your profile (You can reach these settings by going to 'Account' > 'Privacy Settings'
Here I would recommend at least making it so that only friends can post on your wall. This prevents other people you don't know from spamming your profile with pictures. Another important option is "View photos within your profile" using this you can restrict who has access to your pictures which means you can upload private pictures to be viewed only by friends.

So what have we learned?


Your profile can contain a wealth of information about you and most of this is information that a ton of people ask you, if you have it all in one organized, coherent profile you can just simply direct peoples attention there rather than you having to repeatedly point it out to people. The profiles only serve their purpose however, if people actually read them so I would encourage everyone reading this, to start checking peoples profiles before starting private conversations with them, it really just serves to remove a lot time wasted answering unneeded questions. And the Orientation part is a really big one, I see a ton of people trying to hit on people who have a different orientation from them that just winds up wasting the time of everyone involved. It also just makes a good conversation starter if you try talking about common interests like hobbies. (Don't start a conversation with something along the lines of "Mm bby nice picz xxxx" Again more on this next week.)

Rainbow you forgot the most important part, the moral for today. "No one wants to see your dick"

If I have missed anything or you have any questions or anything else to discuss you can post below or you can catch me in the chat if you would prefer.

Next time on 20% Cooler I'm going to start looking at another large part of the website, arguably larger than the profiles, the chat. Specifically, I'm going to start off looking at well known and vital subject, Chat Etiquette as well as the basics of the chat room.